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Sent to a friend I have a big problem. I am a 29 year old woman, got a college degree, a good job and am financially stable. I feel that I have achieved everything I wanted so far and I am ready to get married and settle down. The problem is that I have not met the right guy yet. I have been ready to get married since I was 26, but I thought I will probably meet someone soon. I really want to marry an Afghan guy, but unfortunately my family don't know many Afghans. Ever since my father died 13 years ago, not many families come to our house, because there is no man in our house. We don't have any families or friends in other countries either. There are not many Afghans in our area, and I don't know where to meet the guys. I want to get to know the person before I marry, but I don't know how and where? Most girls get to know the guys through families and friends, but I don't have that luxury. I can't just go up to guys at Afghan parties (not that there are so many of them) and say that I want to get to know them.I am really sad because I feel I might have to marry a cousin from Afghanistan or just marry a Swedish guy because I can't find an Afghan guy. I can't wait forever either because I want to have kids one day, and after you hit 30, it might be hard to get pregnant. I don't know what to do...
Do you guys have any advise?
Posted 10 months ago
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- on't get marry,, believe me its pain in the ass..
Posted 10 months ago - have you thought about having an affair?
afghanboy
Posted 10 months ago - Do not marry a swedish guy he is not muslim, the best thing you could do is go to a mosque and find any women who are afghan I'm sure some afghans go to the mosque over there (sometimes I wonder though...).the people that your family does know i'm sure they know someone... And another thing... here is some advice to get through the process
http://www.jannah.org/sisters/marr.html
http://www.al-islam.org/m_morals/index.htm
in the end of the day the it will be your decision, but honestly pray to Allah (swt) and ask for a pious and honest husband.
Posted 10 months ago - u should not waste time looking for an afghan guy but move on and find anohter guy but make sure he will be with you forever and marry you . Don't waste time with afgan guy its not worth it
Posted 10 months ago - am afghan/canadian. I wasnt so openminded before even two years ago not as much as i am right now. theres this thing i want a boyfriend and then i want it to lead to marriage so i want him to be the right choice and the right guy. i am under 20 and now i am confused between choosing an afghan guy or any other type. i met a real nice white guy to be honest i will end up with any kind except white but now i am falling in love with him. I need help . Should i continue with him or find an afghan guy. I have had very bad exp wit afghans in general with everything they do. but i love my family and no they are not ok with me marrying some other type. They won't support me. oh yea the white guy is over 20. I am very openminded the only ting i am scared of is divorce or never getting married and have a living raltionship
so who should i choose? afg or other type
i am writing my problem here cause i can't write my conffesion but i can only comment for some reaso
Posted 10 months ago - Why do you say that it's not worth waiting for an Afghan? The reason I want to marry an Afghan is because of the same background, culture, language etc.
My family know very few Afghans, and the guys I know are not husband material - they are not educated, lazy, very religious (which I am not) or players. Believe me, I have "looked" for a long time now!
Posted 10 months ago - i wud wait my whole life for a nice afghan boy if i have to but i wud neva marry someone whose not afghan ,
Posted 10 months ago - A lot of diff. people have diff experiences with there husbands, some have the characteristics which you just mentioned above (not educated, lazy, very religious?).
In regards with being very religious, if you don't mind me asking what do you consider as being very religious, since you emphasize as not being very religious how much of Islam do you follow? ( if you dont mind me asking)
The only thing that I can stress is patience and prayer as Allah (swt) states
"And be steadfast in patience, for verily Allah will not suffer the reward of the righteous to perish." (11:115)
"No one will be granted such goodness except those who exercise patience and self-restraint, none but persons of the greatest good fortune." (41:35)
Verily, with every difficulty there is relief.
Verily, with every difficulty there is relief.
Qur'an 94:5-6
Assalamu'alaikum
-Obaid
radaman12@yahoo.com
themodernreligion.co
Posted 10 months ago - FOR THE AFGHAN CANADIAN:
Its best if you stick within the Afghan community if you want someone to marry with, reason being is that not only is he a practicing muslim, but the langauge, culture, and thought process is very similar which makes it easier to communicate with one another. Just because you live in a western country does not mean that there is no hope, with Patience Allah (swt) helps those who call upon him, just make sure you do your prayers and hopefully insha'allah your priorities will be set.
I know how the afghan community is with the level of experiences, from what I know of is that the guys are womanizers, and exploit there own women, drink, abusive etc. etc. etc.. BUT THERE ARE GOOD AFGHAN GUYS its only a matter of patience and looking but remember IF YOU TRY TO FIND SOMEONE WHO IS FAULTLESS, YOU WILL HAVE NO ONE. and another thing, do not date, do not go to that level, make sure you have a wali/ maharram at all times to protect your modesty. I know of some girls who were promised by there boyfriends that they would marry them only to take away there virginity and the girls feel bad about it afterwards, the point of the wali/maharram. is for this very reason.
-Obaidullah
radaman12@yahoo.com
themodernreligion.co
Posted 10 months ago - wise person once had said, everything is meant to happen when the time is right, Your man of dreams will come to your life when its time, You chasing guys wouldnt help you.
Dont rush things
Things happen when they are suppose to happen
timetravel42@yahoo.co
Posted 10 months ago - ok i can't write tis anywhere else so i'll wrtie it here
i love this sexy white guy but he is a little older and he is really succcesful and like the guys of my dreams but the problem is that i am 10 years younger than him
i think he likes me but i am not sure all i know is that he made me go crazy over him belive me i didn't even notice him until he started showing off himself in front of me. how should i know he likes me if he is 10 years older than me oh and i want to find out if he likes me
Posted 10 months ago - Honestly, I just feel that he wants to use you more than anything else. Its difficult in this situation to really understand his true intentions, especially if he is not a Muslim, even if he is he would respect you and ask your interest in marriage. Do not be deceived a lot of guys do this just so they can get some pussy.
-Obaid
radaman12@yahoo.com
themodernreligion.c.o.m.
Posted 10 months ago - well guys are good for good fuck, not for husband one day they are the husband, next day the are with someone else... so if u just want to get fucked by him, age dont matter
Posted 10 months ago - meant to say white guys are good for only sex and good fuck
Posted 10 months ago - meant to say white guys are good for only sex and good fuck
Posted 10 months ago - ho afghan guys are good for fuck the rest of the guys are marriage material except afghans
Posted 9 months ago - ^^^not always true, its not good to make such a generalization. you've probably been hanging around with the wrong type of afghans. same thing can be said about the women but thats not true either.
Posted 9 months ago - Why dont you girls look for muslim guys from other countries such as Pakistanis, Iranis, and so on.
Posted 9 months ago - oooo go with white bab
Posted 9 months ago - AFGHANONLINE.COM BACHEM GO TO THIS SITE AND YOU WILL MEET MR. RIGHT. U CAN TALK TO GUYS THERE AND FIGURE OUT IF YOU LIKE THEM OR NOT. HAY JUST HAVE FUN WITH IT AND WHO KNOW JUST WHEN UR NOT LOOKING SOME ONE WILL FALL IN LOVE WITH YOU. DONT BE SO DESPERATE YOU WILL DEFENATELY FIND A PERSON YOU LIKE. THERE IS 8 BILLION PPL IN THE WORLD THERE IS BOUD TO BE SOMEONE THAT WILL MATCH UR CRITERIA. AND OH YA IF YOUR GONNA MARRY ANYONE JUST MAKE SURE THEY ARE MUSLIM SO UR KIDS ARE MUSLIM . THANK YOU AND HOPE ALL GOES WELL.
MEEE_LOVE URSELF
Posted 9 months ago - eet afghan guys online. even those with family connections don't meet afghan guys or girls via their immediate circle. so you haven't really missed out on anything.
to to the many afghan sites and the best one i would recommend is something called Paltalk.com - download it and search for afghan rooms. you get to meet some intelligent afghan guys.
although beware, most afghan guys are dillusional, think they are something which they are not, and are really up themselves even if they work in a factory. if you happen to meet somebody who actually has a degree, they're the worst.
maybe you are better off marrying somebody from back home - because at least they haven't lost their afghaniyat and they haven't got their noses in cloud nine.
good luck.
Posted 9 months ago - Hey I will marry you if you play your cards right. Drop me a line on tart30@hotmail.com and we will take from there. and I am not joking
Posted 9 months ago -
Why Does everyone write their email adds in here? Am I supposed to add them ;) lol...
To the girl who made this confession, Good luck deary, I know it's hard but u'll get their bakhair, have high hopes and keep ur pride and self respect!! xoxo
Posted 9 months ago - shoy delit shoda lol
go to a chatroom and have fun, lol thats what i do. when my parents arent home....i go to this afghan chatroom...i am not allowed cuz i am only 15 so....i secretly go there and i have to delete the history cuz if they catch me then i am in trouble. ....but u r 29 so go there and have fun.
it is really fun to play with people lolllll
Posted 8 months ago - I would have married you younge lady but degree is not enough for me. Let me know once u are done with ur masters and I might consider you. By the just finishing my PhD this august
Posted 8 months ago - I am 25 years old male, wants to marry.
Please send me a massege once you got my massege.
bigzadah4@yahoo.co
Posted 7 months ago - t doesnt matter where they are from, what skin color they are, and what culture...and so on...according to GOD we are all one , we all come from the same creator we die the same way . What matters is what you value and what you can live with. You can find an afghan, but you can also find a non afghan....but dont think that that is your only option. If poeple were less ignorant and self fullfilling you would have learned by now that even to claim a nationality or pride for your identifying birth country is unlawful....think about it ..
Posted 7 months ago - woooooooooooow ur 29 and ur not married ?????
good luck finding an afghan husband now because many afghan guys dont want you after u hit the age of about 24 or 25 at least thats how it is for my family and friends. So you better find a guy fast because your already kind of old. Go to afghanistan and find a guy there or go to a mosque near your area. oh and also you should go to a lot of afghan weddings (you never know, you could find someone there)
hope that helps
Posted 6 months ago - y sister i read your story, you must trust to god and pray for god ,to help you.
sahar from afghanistan
natalia_oriera@yahoo.co
Posted 5 months ago - ont worry you can find love you guy if like chinese boy l can hope you
Posted 5 months ago - r u virgin??
Posted 4 months ago - hiya, try to look for an arab guy, there r soo many nice ones, well educated, mature, civilized, caring..
I dont know but its not easy to find a good afghan guy.
Whoever it is He should be a muslim, and the girl that said im falling inlove with a white guy, lol dont trust those, he will divorce just like that. but if he becomes a muslim its no problem!
find a godfearing guy, the religious types r kindof good, less chance of them cheating on you, than the guys tht r not religious at all, i mean they have no reason to not cheat on you /drink/gamble/lie/check out other girls..etc
and if he fears allah, then thats a reason not to do all those things i named.
the problem with afghan guys is, they will say your tooo old lol , thats just the way they are ( most of them)
My advice to you is,be patient have hope and look in the right places, pray to Allah, and insha'allah you will find the right one.
Posted 3 months ago - listen people its not the religion, how can u say that if he is a muslim he will not devorce..well usually the most muslims want 2 devorce( specialyy the woman ) but are afraid or a shame, u have 2 marry someone u love, iam not so religious but i dont drink smoke or gamble, cause i know its bad for myself not because my muslim religion stops me, everything what u do is for urself don't forget that u can be good muslim and in a instant u can change soo i depens on urself not ur believe and its not true what u said that a non-muslim will devorce cause there are plenty who didn't devorced and yess some do but even muslims they're self devorce just as much
Posted 1 month ago
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